Despite enormous changes in patterns of dating and courtship in twenty-first-century America, contemporary understandings of romance and intimacy remain firmly rooted in age-old assumptions of gender difference. These tenacious beliefs now vie with cultural messages of gender equality that stress independence, self-development, and egalitarian practices in public and private life.
Through interviews with heterosexual and LGBTQ individuals, Ellen Lamont’s The Mating Game explores how people with diverse sexualities and gender identities date, form romantic relationships, and make decisions about future commitments as they negotiate uncertain terrain fraught with competing messages about gender, sexuality, and intimacy.
"Lamont’s well-designed empirical project and insightful theoretical analysis advance our conversations about the state of the gender revolution in the 21st century."
"Lamont’s analysis of these stories reminds us that there are possibilities beyond what society currently offers us. I ultimately came away from this book feeling inspired and empowered to turn such possibilities into reality."